How successful wo/men deal with bad hands

I had dinner with an amazing woman yesterday. Beautiful, talented, courageous with a heart in the right place and a very well functioning head, she is the type of woman who will tackle anything, appreciates help, but will not halt when she has to do it on her own. She runs her own company and for it has traveled to foreign countries, has made business dealings with people that speak a different language, have a different culture and has her product on the shelves of a big company. All out of one dream she had.

While I listened to her and got to know her better, I realized that she wasn’t in that great spot I assumed she would be in. Many important things hadn’t gone her way and she felt tired and alone. No matter what I saw, she didn’t see the same picture. Still, below all her present confusion, hurt, presumed failures, it was clear what she wanted, what made her happy and what she was good at.

Life is a very bumpy road. Sometimes we look at people and assume they have it all. The more people I make time to really talk/listen to, the more I realize nobody has it all. There are people who have been dealt really bad hands along the way, people who continue to get a lot of bad hands. The difference is how we deal with them. Bad hands have so much potential if we choose to look at them that way, choose to learn from them rather than waste our energy lamenting them. There is a flip side to everything, even bad hands.

As she felt the need to talk about her bad hands, I saw her in the future, saw her in places that she would reach because of those bad hands. I saw that although difficult to handle, her bad hands lined up perfectly with the road she was on. And it’s because she is determined to keep going that she eventually will reach her goal. At least for a moment, after all, despite challenges tiring her out, she’s bored without them.

Until then, I’ll be wandering the bookstores keeping an eye out for the book containing her story.


~ by spasmicallyperfect on March 1, 2007.

3 Responses to “How successful wo/men deal with bad hands”

  1. You know, there are lots of people with fantastic stories that never get written.

    Hey Lolly, good to read you. Yes, I agree. What inspires me so much is that all it takes is making the time to listen and taking a bit of interest in the people around us and fantastic stories keep popping up. What’s yours 🙂 ?

  2. It really is fascinating to see how others seem themselves. Especially those who are accomplished. You’re right, they don’t see how accomplished they are. And great point – it really isn’t the hand you are dealt – it’s how you play that hand that matters, yes? Good post, Spazmo!

    Thanks WC. Any many good hands going forward 🙂 .

  3. It’s all perspective I guess, how we choose to view a particular event be it good, bad or indifferent. This woman seems to have an indestructible spirit. Kudos to her incredible attitude. Once again, you chose to listen. See? 🙂
    Have a great Monday, SP…

    Backatcha (in your own words) and in the sense of cardgames ‘raise that by the rest of the week’ 😉 .
    Re listening: it’s easy once you realise that you can’t really learn anything from listening to your own story over and over again 🙂 .

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